It isn’t easy at first, but one of the greatest gifts you could ever give someone who makes your heart soar is the freedom to learn their own lessons, at their own pace.
But the keywords are – AT THEIR OWN PACE – why is that so hard for people to grasp? No one knows what patience is anymore, everyone wants everything on the-go; relationships, sex, love, work, materialistic items, and so many other things… Am I the only one that feels that way? When you’re in a relationship (or maybe just the ones I’ve been in, let me know if I need to choose my men more wisely), and theres something “you’re” doing wrong that your partner “doesn’t like”, so you go ahead and make the necessary changes to limit the issue….. but then BOOM, god forbid you’re given a day to try and fix things. How are people, in any situation, able to make a difference if they’re not going at their own pace? I’m rambling.
Even trickier is discovering that one of the greatest gifts you could ever give someone who gets on your nerves is the freedom to learn their own lessons, at their own pace.
Sorry to break it to you peeps, but it’s a two way street, takes two to tango, and takes two (in most situations) to make things work. This is true though, a lot of people think “Well if he/she loved me, they’d make these changes right away and make this problem go away.” I’m guilty of this, but I’ve gotten better at giving people time and not wanting things on the fly.
And perhaps the most challenging of all is understanding that one of the greatest gifts you could ever give yourself is the realization that, while your heart is soaring and your nerves are fraying, they have never been dependent upon other people and their lessons.
Deep, right? I’m a sensitive person, so when someone is going through challenges, obstacles, whatever it may be – I take it to heart. I’m this little person who bottles up every emotion, and when that time comes where I am just too packed with mine and everyone else’s emotions – I combust. You would think I was 6’7 and 300lbs (of muscle haha!). I can’t keep doing that to myself because it effects my loved ones, a lot. There was one time not too long ago, where I felt like my body and my well-being were betraying me. I wanted to curl up and hide, and I felt as though there wasn’t a way to ask for the space and time I needed without hurting someone else. What an absolute, shitty feeling, right? But isn’t that the reality for so many of us? When you take the space you need, kindly and responsibly, you’re suddenly available to the people you love in a whole new way.
Remember – no matter what you’re going through, you’re NEVER alone. You’re understood. Life’s roads have been walked before; maybe not entirely the way you walk it, but someone, somewhere understands what you’re enduring – whether it’s minor or major.
Dance life’s dance, just a few steps at a time, and in the blink of an eye you will make certain to yourself, “I’ve got this”.
Take it from someone who sometimes feels lonely, sad, scared, frustrated – You don’t need to slay the beast or scale the entire mountain. That’s not how its done, you only need to move through the day; sunrise to sunset.
love love love love love and then some,
PS: Only because I did something new last night (went to an open mic night/comedy show at a dive in bar – freaking awesome), my heart is filled with joy because not only am I blessed with an amazing best friend back home (she knows who she is – i love you), but I was seriously double blessed to have met these two crazy, beautiful, charismatic, loving people. Thank you Taylor and Kristen for being exactly what my heart and soul absolutely needed. I’m getting emotional typing this, but it’s because my mother always told me, “You’ll know when you meet your best friends, lifelong, other halves”.. That is exactly what you both are to me; part of my heart, well-being, and consecutive entries to my book called life.